A message to the R.Kelly survivors.

For those of you unfamiliar with the R. Kelly documentary here is an article to fill you in. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/04/arts/music/surviving-r-kelly.html

To the brave women who shared their story, thank you and I believe you. I believe you. I believe you.

Thank you for standing up against your abuser and standing up for the other victims. As a survivor myself, I know how painful and hard it is to tell your story, to relive the horrendous memories and the nightmares. It’s an incredibly vulnerable place to put yourself in and I have the utmost respect for you all.

You did the right thing.

Thank you for being a voice on a subject that is so misunderstood and often is left unspoken of. Thank you for being a part of the change to bring light into this darkness.

Thank you for your bravery to speak out in such a public way ,that you were able to reach hurting people all over the world. I pray that the amount of people you were able to help gives you peace and strength in your journey of healing.

I’m so sorry you had to go through this.

I pray that you all know how valuable and loved you are, how important your lives are and that the only one who should be feeling any shame is R Kelly.

Matthew 10:26-31

”So do not be afraid of them, for there is nothing concealed or hidden that will not be made known. What I tell you in the dark, speak in the daylight; what is whispered in your ear, proclaim from the roofs. Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell. Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care. And even the very hairs of your hair are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”

2 thoughts on “A message to the R.Kelly survivors.”

  1. Sierra says:
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    My name is Sierra Benson. I’m kathies baby sister and I was sexually assaulted by our father for 12 long and painful years. The very first time I remember being assaulted by my father I was 5 years old. I remember he came into my room late that night and he did the unthinkable. I remember the second incident very vividly. I had come home from school and passed out on my bed until the next morning. My clothes were not the same clothes I had been wearing the day before. My father had kept me home that day from school so he could use and abuse me. Not only did my father sexually assault me, he also beat me to show that he was in charge and because of that I was afraid to tell anyone, even my family. Fast forward to the age of 15 I am in an atv accident. I call my dad to have him come help me get the vehicle towed and all I remember from that accident is him screaming at me it was my fault that I got in this wreck and I will pay for every single repair and mind you I was the passenger on the vehicle and had no control of the vehicle. Three hours later I’m at my grandparents house eating dinner when all of a sudden I just start screaming and hitting myself in the face uncontrollably. I was having a seizure because of a brain tumor I am not yet aware of. My cousin and her friend have to hold me down while my mom is calling the ambulance. I had many, many stays at the hospital and every time it was just my father and I, he would scream at me saying It was my fault I had a brain tumor and everything bad that has happened to me was my fault. How could a father say that to his own child?! I was so angry at God that he put me through all of this hardship. First I deal with my father abusing me and now this?! There is a quote that I always remember whenever I think of the things I have dealt with in my life. ( God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers.) if anyone who is reading this is questioning why God would allow this to happen is because he knows you are strong and he has a plan for each and everyone of us. I believe I went through these things so that I will be able to help someone who is going through the same hardships as I have, and I have become a stronger person because of it.
    One of the hardest things for me was letting go of all that anger and hurt my father had caused me. Let me just tell you, all of that anger inside of you does no harm to anyone but yourself. I’ll admit when I was feeling angry I would call my father on the phone just to yell and call him names because I though that would make me feel better. It never gave me a sense of relief after. I was almost even angrier after and it didn’t make me feel better to do that, I just felt worse. Talking to people about what I’ve went through has helped me immensely get rid of all that darkness inside of me! Don’t let what happened to you follow you for the rest of your life, get help. This is my story and I am no longer a victim, I am a survivor.
    -Sierra

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    • kathrynvargas1011 says:
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      I am so proud of you for telling your story. You are heard and completely believed. I pray that sharing this not only helps others but also brings more healing for you. I know this is a hard and a very brave thing to share, and you are absolutely right, God made you so very strong. I’m so grateful to have you as my baby sister, I love you.

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